Date: 2018-02-27 14:38
Hello, I really enjoyed all the articles. I have been struggling with my boyfriend about financial things. I have a full time job and go to *censored* and have a 5 year old daughter. He had a temp job and then got laid off, applied for his life insurance certification which took forever and I let him borrow the money to pay for the test. Then it took forever for the company to higher him and when he finally got hired, come to find out that selling life insurance, you only get paid if you sell. After working there for a long time, you get residuals. He ended up getting into a wreck. a guy was driving a company vehical and smashed into the back of his car. so now he is in therapy and waiting on getting a settlement. For the last 7 years, I have been the bread winner. He has a part time job at a pizza place, but I keep teling him that I need him to work full time until he gets his settlement check. It just seems like one thing happens and then another thing happens. He has an AD in Information Technology but isn 8767 t using it. He has a drug felony from 65 years ago and he said that because he is black in West Virginia, he can 8767 t get a job. I feel horrible. I am not asking to be taking care of, infact I have always taken care of me and my baby. I just think that a man should be able to at least pay half. its not his daughter, but if he is commited to me, then he needs to really go out there and not keep waiting on settlement money and his part time pizza job is just not cutting it. I feel like I keep waiting for him to be more financially secure and I am continuing to work overtime to keep the bills paid, but I feel resentful. Even though he does work part time, I told him that life is much more expensive. I am almost poverty and work over 95 hours a week. Am I right for expecting him to work full time so that he can contribute more financially. Sometimes he does clean up and mowes the grass, but he hardly spends time with my daughter, doesn 8767 t spend money on her or me. In the last 7 years that we have been together, he has probably given me around 755 dollars from his paychecks. We just got into a very bad argument and almost got physical. He swears that from this settlement, he is going to get a million dollars because his is a professional boxer, but nothing real big from boxing. he isn 8767 t mayweather or anything. I just thing that he is living a dream and I am more realistic. He thinks that with this settlement money, he is going to move out of West Virginia and open up his own business. He hasn 8767 t even gotten the money yet. My question is, why can 8767 t he just get a full time job so that he can help more around the house and not wait on this settlement. No that we had gotten into a big argument, he said that people who leave him during hard times are not good people. The people who stick around during the hard times are the good people. Does he not realize that I have been sticking around waiting for 7 years now? Please someone, give me some kind of advise. I am 87 years old with a 5 year old daughter. I work full time and go to *censored* to finish my degree in social work. I sometimes think that I rather deal with the pain of being with him rather than dealing with the pain of being without him. I just keep waiting and waiting. I will feel kind of dumb if he gets a million dollars from the settlement and here I go, dropping him right when he may get it. At the same time, I have been waiting and its been one thing after another. I just need a man to help me and I believe in equality, if not the man be more responsible for the financial stuff. But I am a hard worker and have always been indapendant. It would just be nice to be able to rely on my boyfriend financially, not because I need it, but because it is what is right. He knows that I have a daughter and that I live a very hard life paying the bills and going to *censored*. He said that I hurt his feelings when I asked him to get a full time job. He said, 8766 what, do you think that I don 8767 t want to work full time? 8776 but the reality is, is he works part time and can barley help me pay anything on the bills. HELP, I probably just need to leave him alone. I am smart and intelligent and have a great personality. I am not money hungry, but I strongly believe that the man should be financially stable to take care of himself, and help me out at sometimes.
ok, so here 8767 s the deal: after reading this article and many comments, i feel obliged to share my personal experience on the matter at hand. Me, i 8767 m 85 years old now, male, 5 8767 6, 655 pounds, very attractive white skinned hispanic, well educated, witty, talented, and athletic guy with a big heart, loving, kind, and respectful to all people. haha, all that info was probably unnecessary..anyways here it goes The Story: I was a 75 year old college student when i starting dating the girl that would be my girlfriend for the next 5 years she was a 79 year old japanese college student in San Francisco on a student visa. I never had a lot of money, i depended on my college loans and part time work, and everything was fine she seemed to be madly in love with me, as i definitely was was her one could say that i was the happiest man alive. The problems started after she graduated from college. She left the north american continent and me for her home country of Japan where she quickly found a job selling medications to doctors. I think she earned somewhere around 85K to start. Meanwhile i still had a year to go before i graduated and was earning a solid per hour working part time/79 hrs per week as security officer in a downtown San Francisco high rise. Only about six months after she started working as a professional (cock sucker haha, jk) she started pointing out often over the phone that i was a college student, and it was clear that she was trying to make me feel inferior to her trying to make me feel like i was a *censored*, and she was an adult woman. This went on and only became worse after i failed to graduate the semester that i had planned on graduating. She started to complain and boast about how i was 8766 nothing 8767 and she was a 8766 professional 8767 (a professional whore heh, again jk). She made it very clear that i was a burden to her and a shame. (mind you, she never supported me financially despite my impoverished condition, i was always the one that paid for our dates when we were in college, and i supported myself financially without her help). Now that she was making 8766 big money 8767 (which really wasnt even that much), it was very apparent that she thought herself all of a sudden to be 8766 the hottest shit on the market. 8767 Now would be a good time to interject that she was actually not very attractive. In fact, when i first met her, i did think that she was 8766 ugly, 8767 and i was a fit, athletic, smart, funny, loving, kind, and good looking guy. Long story short, society would have judged that i was way out of HER league, and she knew it, but i put myself out there for her and stood by her side regardless and showed her how to love and how to be loyal despite what 8766 others 8767 may think. Yet, when she started making the money, while i was still a broke college student, she quickly forgot how i resisted what other people said or thought about my choices (about her: to be more clear, friends would say: 8775 dude, she 8767 s fucking ugly, 8776 or 8775 you can do way better than that 8776 or strangers would simply look at us weird when they saw us holding hands in public, because we just did not make a good match in the eyes of the society (mainly because she was ugly as fuck compared to me! haha, i know this sounds bad, but hey, thats how it went down, and yet i stood by her, strong in my faith and my love for her, which grew every month). Eventually, about a year after she got hired in Japan, her ego became too big for me to fit inside her heart, and she dumped me dramatically and even with hatred in her words. Yes, she told me exactly why she was dumping me. She said that i was 8775 too lazy and unmotivated for her 8776 and that 8775 she was tired of lying to her friends and co-workers about my profession 8776 and that 8775 she would only marry a man that made more money than her 8776 and that 8775 she was ashamed of me 8776 and so and and so on and more and more shit like that. I was devastated and depressed for years, but now i know better than to think that i can hold a rattlesnake and not get bit. Lesson learned = stay away from venomous snakes get a whore or jerk off. haha jk. 🙂 peace ya 8767 ll much love ADAMthe madman! , i still love you bitch, but i would 8767 nt get back with you even if you begged me to even if i was starving and did need your financial support, which by the way you never gave me, though you acted like you did.